After returning from BigStuf I have been wanting to share some of the things I learned there. Even though BigStuf is aimed at kids in middle school and high school, I think you are never too old to learn something new. The first thing that really hit home was one of the talks from Jared. Before going to Bigstuf I began thinking a lot about RELATIONSHIPS… Whether or not it would ever be right for me? I look around at different couples in different situations and see love and heartache. So I ask myself, Why even put yourself through it? Well, this is what I learned.
You can go down two different paths in a relationship. I) The path that everything is right and you love one another the way God meant for love to be. 2.) The wrong path!!!!! This is the one I feel like I see all around. People loving the way they think it should be, not the way God intended to be. So I think of the phrase I hear often in church Love Wins!!! True, but that is always GOD’S Love that Wins not our own version of what we think love should be.
Okay so to my point now, there are 6 areas or degrees of a relationship each one with a rating 1 to 10.
1.) The Emotional Area:
#1- you like someone, a little you think they are attractive and you talk occasionally.
#10- you have a high emotional connection
2.) The Physical Area:
#1- you hold hands
#5- Kiss
#10- Sex
3.) The Social Area:
#1- you see each other in Groups, She has her friends and he has his friends.
#10- You become ONE socially. You have the same friends.
4.) The Intellectual Area:
#1- You talk about your own separate ideas with one another.
#10- You share ideas, you want to do the same things.
5.) The Spiritual Area:
#1- you go to church together
#5- you pray for each other
#10- You have a spiritual connection. You move towards God together. Pray Together
6.) The Commitment Area:
#1- You hangout
#5- Your dating just each other
#10- Marriage.
So how these 6 areas work in one. There is a need that exists for these 6 areas to stay on the same level. They should also progress slowly. When they do not stay on the same level that is when you end up on the wrong path relationally. So what I mean as staying on the same level is when you are at a #1 in the beginning of your relationship emotionally, socially, intellectually, spiritually, and in commitment you can not jump to a #10 physically without something going wrong. That is not how God meant for our relationships to be.
Not Sure why this topic was my favorite. I just know it made me realize alot. One thing I do know is you can't have a true love with another person until you have a true honest love with God!!! Only then can you have a relationship that is pure.
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